Is this a negative word? Only if you haven't reached the other side. You can be any orientation and be a freak. Even still a virgin!! Don't let the word scare you relax and enjoy sex. Everyone is one. If your partner thinks you are in a negative way and don't change you will never be satisfied. To reach intense orgasms mays require intense actions. Admit it and go for it... GOOD LUCK TO ALL BE A POSITIVE FREAK AND ENJOY SEX!!!!!!