HNW -- One For the Ladies!! ;-)
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Posted:Oct 24, 2012 9:24 pm
Last Updated:Oct 30, 2012 8:14 pm
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Here is one for the ladies! I always post pics of me on the blog. I thought I would give the ladies a pic of the Mr.  So here he is in his boxer briefs all hard, and ready!! Woohoo!!
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HNW -- Cozy
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Posted:Oct 24, 2012 8:33 pm
Last Updated:Oct 25, 2012 9:33 am
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I have been under the weather lately  So the only thing on my mind has been staying warm, comfy and cozy. So that is what inspired my HNW picture. Hope you like.  I will post more again once I am feeling better.
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HNW - Animal
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Posted:Oct 17, 2012 3:21 pm
Last Updated:Oct 22, 2012 12:09 pm
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Chose a little animal print (my favorite) for this HNW...and a little more clothing lol. 
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50 Shades of ...Horny
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Posted:Oct 16, 2012 10:05 pm
Last Updated:Oct 22, 2012 11:47 am
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These books have sparked all kinds of controversy. Mostly within the BDSM world from what I have read. I know I am probably late to this party. My apologies but just have to add my take.
I don't really see what the big deal is. I mean if women want to dabble in some blindfolds, anal beads, handcuffs, whips, and paddles etc...then more power to them. That is what it should be about IMO. People wanting to learn more.
I will admit...I have read the first two books. I actually liked the first one. I thought the story was okay. The second one I started reading out of curiosity....but I couldn't even read through it's entirety. It was monotonous and the storyline became so ridiculous. I didn't even bother with the third since I couldn't even get through the second.
The reason I think the first one piqued my interest is because it was somewhat relatable as far as the view of someone who is new to that lifestyle.
What are all of the toys? What is the 'equipment' and what exactly is it used for? That type of thing. I mean I don't expect to learn all there is to know about BSDM from a fictional book by any means. But it was a nice place to get my feet wet (or other things).
We have dabbled in bondage a little. By a little I mean that we own handcuffs, and rope restraints. We have small whips and some other toys. Blindfolds of course are always fun. But that has pretty much been the extent of it. We have done very little in the way of dominance and submission.
Is it something that I would be interested in? Perhaps...I have to research a little more on the subject before making any concrete decisions. Would it be bad if I say it all 'looks' fun? I don't want to offend anyone. Since I know so little about it.
A sexual fantasy? That is probably what it starts out as for a lot of people. That is what it is for me at this point. I would have to find out if there is some aspect to it that would turn me on. Which part would turn me on? Those are the questions I need to figure out.
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Halloween Sluttiness
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Posted:Oct 16, 2012 12:40 am
Last Updated:Oct 16, 2012 9:31 pm
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It is that time of year. Halloween is just right around the corner.
If you have visited your local costume shops you can find all the latest slutty costumes. You can of course find other ones as well, but those are not near as fun as the slutty ones.
Most of the costumes are pretty much the same from year to year. Not much is actually "new". You will find the nurses, fairies, witches, and vampires. The latest thing is the furry stuff that is added to the costumes. Big furry hats, with furry leg warmer looking things, or arm warmer thingies, added to a 'sexy, slutty' dress lol. They remind me of Jim Henson Muppets.
Halloween is such a fun time of year for so many different reasons for sure.
I, myself love this time of year. The weather, the colors, the smells...it all comes together into perfection.
We actually were able to go out this last weekend and find our Halloween costumes that we will be wearing to our Halloween Party. It was hard to figure out what we wanted to be this year. Neither one of us put much thought into it before hand. We browsed around our Spirit Halloween store more than a few times before we settled on our idea.
I had to try on my costume because I wasn't sure if it would fit...pleasantly surprised that it was actually a little bit big and it was a One Size Fits Most... and most of you ladies know how that goes. It comes with a belt, and it ties around the neck so it's all adjustable and I should be able to make it work just fine.
Are you curious now, as to what I will be dressed up as? You will have to wait and see. I will post pics after our party. They will be up before Halloween, since our "Trick or Greet" party is going to be on the 27th.
Hahaha  I like my new term..."Trick or Greet". For a Swingers/Lifestyle Party it is perfect.
Swinger Halloween parties are a shit load of fun and excitement.  If you like to see a lot of scantily clad women that is.  Swingers love to dress up in slutty costumes lol. But now-a-days you can go to just about any bar and see that too  But we (swingers) get to be just a little bit more naughty! Where else can you flirt and possibly fondle multiple women and men all in the same place and NOT get into trouble?
It is often the only time some people go out to a lifestyle event. Sometimes it is because they get to be discreet and hide within their costumes, and for others if the time is right they can plan for it, especially if they have .
That brings up a great little scenario most people don't really think about. How to get out of the house in a slutty costume if you have ...lol. Changing at the party is one option. Long trench coats come in handy (my own method)! You have to get creative sometimes.
Last year I was Little Red Riding Hood, and the Mr. was The Big Bad Wolf. Hahaha. I forgot my basket of condoms at home though...I was bummed about that. But leaving the house was not a big deal (the basket of condoms would have raised their eyebrows though).
Are you going to a Halloween Party this year? What will you be going as?
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Halloween Bash - October 27th
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Posted:Oct 15, 2012 12:07 pm
Last Updated:Oct 28, 2012 1:06 pm
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It is that time of year again! Halloween! Time to get all dressed up and come and have some crazy sexy fun!! You can send me a mail here for questions. You can RSVP here Elicit Underground
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The Single Most Important Thing About Swinging
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Posted:Oct 9, 2012 10:53 pm
Last Updated:Oct 11, 2012 10:33 pm
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For Couples.
The single most important thing about being a part of the swing lifestyle is putting your relationship above all else.
You have to be sure that you are HAPPY & SECURE in your relationship before you even begin to consider being a part of the lifestyle.
I say this because diving head first into the lifestyle without first having that secure bond as a couple, can be a huge risk to your relationship.
You both have to be on the same page when it comes to spicing up your sex life by entering into the lifestyle.
The BEST way to be in sync with one another is by COMMUNICATION.
Talk to each other. Have an open and honest discussion with each other about the lifestyle.
What is your motivation?
- Why do you want to be a part of the lifestyle?
What are your expectations as a couple?
- Essentially, not having any expectations about the lifestyle will lead to no disappointments, but having expectations as far as what it should do for your relationship is a smart choice.
What are your rules?
- Your boundaries. What is okay and what is not okay. Very important to know before you attend your first event. Your rules are for your relationship and it is what you and your partner are comfortable with. They are not set in stone, and often will evolve with your time in the lifestyle.
What will satisfy you as a couple?
-What will you be looking for in the lifestyle? Other couples? A single female? Single male?
How will you swing?
-This is how far you are willing to go with others in the lifestyle. Are you into just soft swap? Which is play with no sexual penetration. Full swap? Which is having sex with the other persons partner. Are you okay with same room sex only or are you okay with separate rooms etc?
How will you behave once you are in a swinging situation?
-Usually one couple will take the lead, but it is nice to discuss this before hand so you avoid an awkward situation.
How will you deal with it if something goes badly?
-You hope it doesn't, but it has been known to happen, so it is always good to be prepared. Have a safe word or gesture to let your partner know that you are not comfortable etc.
How will you handle it if there is a misunderstanding?
-Again, better to be prepared. This situation is less likely to occur the more prepared and the more discussion you have had with your spouse/partner.
~When NOT to be a part of the lifestyle~
Aside from not starting out with an open, honest, trusting relationship, there are a few other areas of concern that would let you know that you are not ready or should not be a part of the lifestyle.
Jealousy
-That is probably the number one reason to not get involved in the lifestyle IMO. If you or your spouse has issues with that little green monster than it is best NOT to even be a part of the lifestyle.
Difficulty Communicating
-If you can't sit down and have those difficult conversations with one another, then there is no way you are capable of being a part of the lifestyle.
Religion
-If you are deeply religious, then the lifestyle probably is not going to fit into your values.
Morals
-If you have moral hang ups about sex then the lifestyle is not for you.
The lifestyle relies heavily on the healthy relationships of others. When you enter into it with full knowledge and acceptance, not only of your own relationship, but that of others, then it makes it that much more enjoyable and fun.
I hope this has helped.
Laterz!
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The Weekend - Halloween - Decor
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Posted:Oct 9, 2012 9:31 pm
Last Updated:May 18, 2024 7:53 am
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The weekend was good. I know it is almost mid week already and I am talking about my weekend lol.
It was good because my came home from college for a visit. Always nice.
I had mentioned starting a new medication and thought I was doing alright with it. Blah! I have had a constant headache since Saturday. It has also been messing with my stomach, and it has made me unbelievably tired! So again...sorry for the lack of keeping up with my blogging. I have been sleeping lol...which is nice because that is the only time my head doesn't hurt.
Joy! I get to take that med tomorrow again (I only take it once a week).
But we did decorate for Halloween this last weekend as well, and that was fun too. We love Halloween and all the cool decorations. My favorite indoor decorations are the wall stickers. Love love love them. Went and found some super cool ones at Jo-Ann Fabric store. Snagged them for 50% off. Because you should never pay full price!
We will also be doing an inventory of our Halloween decor for our upcoming Halloween party (October 27th). Always a blast! We found another Penis ice luge to do shots with! Woohoo! Good times! We will see if we can find the booby ice luge as well. We have a super cool idea for pictures too, so we will see if we have time to build it.
It is a busy month. It is already flying by so damn fast.
Laterz!
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HNW - On a Friday?
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Posted:Oct 5, 2012 9:24 pm
Last Updated:Oct 18, 2012 9:46 am
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I am sorry I haven't posted much all week.
I have had a bad week pain wise (I think it had part to do with the crap weather we got), and I started a new medication for my RA.
I kinda lost track of my time.
I meant to post this picture on Wednesday for the Half Nekkid Wednesday posts. So my sincerest apologies for being late!!
Please for give me. 
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The Healing Power of Pussy....
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Posted:Oct 1, 2012 11:05 pm
Last Updated:Oct 5, 2012 10:09 pm
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Bawhahaha!! 
I bet you thought I was talking about the vajayjay.
Nope. Kitty Cats.
QUEENBEEV was actually the one who was discussing this topic with me. So I give her the cred she is due.
That is my kitty. Her name is Abba. She is my little healer.
I read up on the healing power of a cats purr. Turns out that the frequency of a cat's purr actually does have healing properties on chronic pain (which is what I deal with), bones, muscle growth and repair, swelling reduction, and wound healing. Not to mention stress reduction, and lowering blood pressure.
Pretty cool huh?
My little Abba, actually sits with me most of the time. She especially is by my side when I am having a bad pain day, and she will just hang with me, or she will knead her blankie and suckle it and purr. She will also follow me around the house on those days too, like she is trying to get me to go lay back down. She is the sweetest little cat I have ever had. She seems to be very in-tune with me.
Now I also read that scientist don't actually know where the sound of the cats purr comes from. But they believe it is a vibration of the vocal chords.
Cats also, don't actually purr when they are content. I mean they could purr with contentment, but they purr for other reasons too. They purr when they are in pain as well, and it is believed that they do this to heal themselves. They also purr when they are anxious or afraid. So it could be to calm themselves or try to deal with the stress of a situation.
These little furry creatures are a mystery still. But maybe the Egyptians were on to something, with their cat worship. lol
I am and will always remain, a cat lover.
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Me - About a Woman & A Man
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Posted:Sep 28, 2012 11:27 am
Last Updated:Jan 14, 2013 10:01 pm
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I did not blog yesterday. My apologies. I was not feeling well...a bad day for the RA. I spent most of my time in bed.
I wondered about what to blog. I always have a few ideas floating around in my head.
But today, I thought I would give you an idea of who we are.
We have been a part of this community for quite some time and we have always kept ourselves secretive for discretion reasons. But we figured that since everyone is here for the same reasons or at least for some sort of sexual reasons...then it should be alright to share a little about ourselves. Beyond the profile info of 'what are you looking for etc'.
My partner and I have been together for 17 years. We are a part of the lifestyle. We like to share partners with others, in same room only. We got into the lifestyle by way of spoken fantasies. That turned into having a threesome, and then having more, and eventually led to other couples. We have never actually done any playing with single men. But that is not to say we wouldn't, we just haven't had the chance yet. Plus, with men, we like to get to know them real well first.
I am a well educated person, I have a bachelors degree in Psychology, with a Sociology minor from an actual University. lol. I took 6 years to get my degree because I was a single parent. I worked in that field with at risk youth for awhile, until I burnt out. Now I make and sell jewelry online. I know, a huge change. But I am doing what makes me happy.
My partner/hubby works full time and also has a part time job as well. He works hard for us. He is a veteran, and served during the first Gulf War. He was honorably discharged shortly after that. He is a hard worker and the most honest, caring man I know.
We met on Valentine's Day almost 18 years ago. We have been together ever since. It was pretty much love at first site. We are soul mates. We had met before when I was just 14 years old, at a Def Leppard concert...he is 7 years my senior. We had a connection back then too. So it truly was fate that brought us back together again 7 years later.
We now host lifestyle parties together. We ended up hosting the parties about three years ago. We belonged to a club, where the original "owner" didn't want to be questioned about the finances That "owner" ended up just leaving the club, and she had already started up a new club. Like she knew she was under scrutiny, and prepared for it. Sneaky or what? At any rate, somehow that club landed in our lap. People thought no one would take over. We did. Changed the name and the image all for the better too.
While it has been difficult to change the image of what people think a lifestyle club is in our area, we are seeing a slow difference. Once people attend one of our events they see how fun a lifestyle party can be. People have always been pleasantly surprised. Because we are so welcoming.
We know how things were in the lifestyle scene here. So we knew what we wanted, and that is how we ended up modeling our parties after...our ideal party. So far it has been a success from the feedback we get.
There is still a ways to go. We still get sabotaged. We still get harassed. Then we get the blame. lol believe me, we have better things to do. It all adds up to drama, and most people don't like the drama. Some people need to learn to leave others alone and do your own thing...stop copying everything we do. I mean I know we are hip, happening, and cool as hell, and imitation is the best form of flattery, but its just lame when that is all they can do is copy you. lol No original ideas at all.
But we deal. Best we can. We get thanks for putting together some cool ass parties. For being who we are and not cold as ice. We are not afraid to be who we are.
That is what it boils down to.
Being who you are. For real. Not some fake someone or another.
When you are not being who you are, then there is no way you can truly enjoy the lifestyle for all it has to offer.
You have to be completely honest in yourself, your partner, and your relationship for it to truly work.
We have seen people use fake names...screen names are different. We have seen people not know who they are as a couple enough to even be in the lifestyle.
we have seen couples trying to fix problems in their relationship by trying to be in the lifestyle. That does not work!
We have seen singles trying to find long term relationships. So not the place to do it. Not in the lifestyle.
We have seen people looking to replace their spouse. So not cool.
We have seen jealousy run rampant. Know yourself and your partner/spouse and that does not happen.
We have seen a lot in the over ten years we have been a part of the lifestyle.
We have seen the good and the bad. You hope that the good will out weigh the bad, and mostly it does. But drama can bring it all down. The drama we have had to deal with is outside. From one particular person and her members. Because they just can't leave people alone. It is truly childish and underhanded but not all together a surprise. It is just an ongoing bad behavior. When someone gets away with something for so long, they think they can just keep going with it. Well news flash! People are tired of it!
Bad news travels faster than good news, and word is getting out. Not by us either. We don't have to say or do a damn thing. People come to us and share their stories. It is interesting to say the least. But we don't have to do a thing. All of it is happening on its own.
Like we said. Be you and be honest and it all works out. Because if you are dishonest in the lifestyle, it will come back and bite you in the ass. Any way you look at it. Karma!
Whether you are a couple, or single. Just be honest and be yourself.
We have had some of the best times with people who are honest and real, and know themselves. That is how you enjoy the lifestyle. You can't enjoy it by trash talking others. I mean who cares? We all just want to have fun times.
We are real, honest, and like to have fun times. We love to meet others who are similar. So far that has not been a problem.
There are some really great people in our lifestyle community, and so many more that we have not met yet, but we would love to!
Laterz!
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