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CDB the cost of doing business is a metric that everyone uses to explain away stuff (big and small) that doesn't really fit into a chart of accounts but that you have do or have to have to make shit work. while I was watching Billions the other day, I was thinking that their CDB must be<b> enormous. </font></b>writing off concerts and penthouse suites, yanno? most businesses are just writing off ittybitty stuff. but it set my wheels turning about what we all do everyday with each other and relationships. the little gives and the tiny ways we cede things we never really think about at the moment but that over time start to feel like Greece's debt portfolio. let's be honest, we think we're just letting something go, but secretly we're keeping track on that internal scoreboard, plus, plus, minus, plus, minus, minus. until thar she blows. and every little slight 'youdidn'tcometomysister'sshowerwhenyousaidyouwould' that was supposedly no big thing at the time leaps straight into your brain with a dozen more pushing up behind it and you are primed for battle. in business, a CDB is wiped annually. ceases to exist after a 12 month period...pfft and gone. but in life, well in life those little costs just hide and wait, building and building. men are much better at letting shit go than women are. they are....admit it. not all of them, but most of them. I had one once that wasn't but not for long - he drove me nuts. solution. the CDB in a relationship is a constant daily accounting. kind of like a cash basis system for the dailies that assists the overall accrual. if you can stand the accounting terminology. or if your my mother, you'd say....talk it out. if your my father you'd just sigh....smiles. they were married forevah. no idea why this is on my mind today. the show Billions, the CDB being so high. you figure it out. me, i'm just looking for a Sir who won't let me build up a spreadsheet in my head that costs me a good thing. You cannot conceive the many without the one. |
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All I know is that I like your profile pic, wherever that is 
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My 2nd husband kept a running scorecard on me, as well as his own children. I'm not the sort of person who remembers every perceived slight. When he confronted me I did manage to produce (after a long search) ticket stubs of a presentation that he accused me of not attending. I couldn't deal with his accounting methods so I divorced him and at the same time, warned his adult children that every transgression was being held against them in his will. Never ignore those who care for you you will have lost diamonds while you were collecting stones
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That's a really interesting way to look at things.... a relationship CDB. My accountant brain says I like it... I like it a lot. Thanks for the perspective!
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First, I LOVE that show. I think they do a great job of showing deeply flawed people and both their light and dark. Second, yep CDB. I kept a spreadsheet for a long time and it got really really big and complicated and messy. I pared it way down when I learned to speak up far more in the moment. It's still there but way more manageable now. Less filled too with daily minutiae and more about bigger things. I've used it before to evaluate when the cost starts to exceed the benefits. As TIckle says, this analogy appeals to my accountant/project manager brain! xoxo Always tell the truth Use kind words Keep your promises Giggle and laugh Be positive Love one another Always be grateful Forgiveness is mandatory Try new things Say please and thank you Say your prayers Smile ~Author unknown
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oh lordy - don't like it............fight it You cannot conceive the many without the one.
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