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my outlook I think providing some contex might help understand why I’m here and maybe help you whether it’s worth your time. I understand this is primarily a hook site. I am not adverse a hook if there's some chance for a ltr. I have tried dating sites but they seem full of those wanting a specific menu of ideal features and qualities. Simple probability says that by your third “must be...” qualifier your odds of finding a right match has dropped 25%. Every additional “must have” halves the ‘match’ liklihood even further. In short, you’re menutizing your prospects away. make matters worse, that rare person who does posses such a combination of wonderful traits and mannerisms was snagged off the market long ago. And who would ever leave someone like that? Compounding the problem, if, perchance, you even get a point of exchanging messages a dating site, there’s a good chance that the recepient will judge the initial ice-breaker harshly. Maybe too timid and brief, like “Whassup??” whereas you’re looking for a “take-charge” kinda fella. Where you can jump into conversation without any awkwardness on your part. You want a guy with Tom Hank’s unassuming self-assuredness, with Don Rickles’ quick wit, and with Daniel Craig’s chillness mixed in for good measure so that they can turn every slip up into a non-event. Good luck with that. Yet, if a new connection spills out their real thoughts or entire life, i.e. reveal themselves to be actually human, then they seem both self-absorbed and desperate. The reality is most lasting relationships require a great deal of self humilty and forgiveness of the imperfections of other. If awkward first steps are a deal breaker, then our judgmentalness probably has caused us to pass up a lot of decent opportunities already and cost us relationships we did manage to have. Just keep in mind... practice makes perfect, so those who seem perfect have had a lot of practice. One virtue of a hook up site is that there is some ababandonment of the menutizing for the acknowledgement that we also have other needs that must be met. It is for that reason, that such a site can actually attract a more “real” and mature crowd than those sites cattering to those seeking an ideal more than an actual human companion. I have my downsides and my upsides. To some, one of my downsides is I have very little bravdo. That’s not my nature and not fond of the many self-assured ignorameses that do. Usually there is little to be learned from such types as they rarely seek further improvement or insight as they’ve already deign themselves in possesion of superior truth, so why should they bother? If I had to characterize my personality, it would be “the man on the hill...” I take my time to learn others just as I want someone who takes their time to understand me. I can have a viscious wit, but it comes with time, only after I learn people’s natures and nuances. One of the reasons I dont want anyone on a cause crusade is because I have no desire to navigate my humor or guard my thoughts around their triggers and eggshells. I’m not PC. I dont want someone who is. I prefer someone humble, gratious and forgiving which, for the most part, is the antithesis of PC. (p.s. I also prefer someone who respects themselves both<b> physically </font></b>and mentally) |
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