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Blogs > poolsider63 > Great Things To Know and Tell

The more things change, the more they stay the same.  

poolsider63 69M
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12/7/2018 7:19 am
The more things change, the more they stay the same.

I originally had this as part of my about me in my profile. It is far too long to be contained in that spot . Hence, I started a blog.

I've never blogged before, but something tells me that I will start to get good at it.
Maybe.

So here we go:

I have observed that there are several different "types" of members of this site.

Not an exhaustive list btw. Human sexuality is a very expansive topic.

1. Married or attached men (usually older) that are seeking to find "forbidden fruit" with someone other than their current partner. They will often comment on photo's of anyone else - "hot or hottie", "I want lick that", "beautiful or sexy".
We've all seen the comments - we know these guys.

2. Single men that vary in age that have very large cocks that are proud of them, ( I might add rightfully so) and put them on display to attract other similar men, women that love BBC or BWC, and couples of the same mindset. Their cocks are usually attractive (not necessarily in pictures) to many women and quite a few men.

3. Married or attached women of various ages that are also seeking something on the side - which is usally type 2 above.

4. Single. usually younger women that believe (and again usually rightfully so) that they can attract and get anyone of any type that I describe. Some are sometimes interested in things that were somehow (poorly) portrayed in 50 shades of gray. They also may be very couple friendly, or just looking for other type 4's.

5. Couples that are in the "lifestyle" or want to join the lifestyle. I have a LOT to learn about in this area. Many are looking for similar couples for MFFM (or the infinite varieties this offers). I am very and able to put in the effort required to become one of the M's in MFM or FMFFMFMFMFFMMFM?

6. Truly single - and yes - she is a mature or older woman. She has spent most of her adult life in some sort of "standard" relationship. Most often divorced. She is still full of untapped sexual energy and may also find herself seeking type 2's. She does not like type 1's because they can not be trusted.

7. Then there is me. Similar to a type 6 but I male.

I single - after a 21 year marriage followed by a 13 year relationship. Yes - I too a mature/older guy - that has spent most of his adult life in a socially acceptable monogamous relationship, with an age appropriate woman. The responses I get vary greatly by the audience. All the way from Ewwwww - Gross (mostly from women under 40 whose parents are my age) to " your - hotI want to suck that cock - Yummy! (mostly from gay men). I don't mind these comments, and I take them as they were intended.

The intention(s) I believe are to actually simply a complement, to get me to notice their cock, or to somehow get me to meet with them so that they can suck or fuck me.

I not gay or what I would even call bi. Maybe bi curious or bi-lite (I don't know) I have had and enjoyed a few MFM experiences but to my chagrin even fewer FMF.

Even though I not gay or completely bi - I have had a cock in my mouth.I not sure that I would wish to "work to completion" but maybe (I don't know - searching for answers here). Hand job to completion (both sexes) is okay with me however.

While I will admit to having a fantasy about Thai or Filippino "ladyboys". Older American TS/TV are not on my radar at all. It is still just a fantasy - and may stay that way for quite awhile.

I have not, nor do I, have much of a desire to have a cock up my ass - or my cock up a his ass. A her ass on the other hand? That is why couples are of such interest to me - because as types go - they seem to be far more open minded and comfortable in their relationships between themselves and others.

Do I have a big cock? No I do not - pretty average I guess, depending on whose study you read. I am still confident in myself despite my cock's "averageness".

I am NOT average in any other aspect of my being.

While, I have not had too much of an opportunity in the past with women and anal - this has become far more acceptable by a good number of women. This may be where an "average cock" may just be valuable. Here again "size does matter" You tell me.

8. Then there is those that are in the BDSM lifestyle (Male or Female of any age).

I am now just entering this realm. I am joining a club in order to really learn about my desires and how I fit in this lifestyle (if at all). The important thing to me is that I have seized the freedom to be myself. I have lacked that in the past. As I mentioned in a post on a different website (centered around BDSM and all forms of<b> kink </font></b>and fetishes)
"When I learn what I need to learn - then I will be ready".

Therefore my ideal person has some of the characteristics of all the types described above. While it is common to think that men my age (64) are seeking type 4's, I find myself looking for type 6's and then 5's.

I single again, and seeking to fill in the blanks of my experiences. I far more open minded and sexual than I ever thought I could be.

I open to discussing many things, but don't expect me to agree to everything. I however intelligent. Any of you that are sapiophiles will find my type attractive to you.

I Do Not Drink Alcohol any longer. Used to waaaaaaaaaaaay too much. I don't care if you drink - doesn't bother me anymore

So why do I say "The more things change - the more they stay the same"?

I remember vividly as a young 13-14 - searching for my sexual identity. I figured out fairly quickly that I straight. Today, it is very different and those that are jsut coming into their time of figuring out who and what they are have an acceptance (for the most part) of choosing for themselves what is correct for them.
The reality is they are as forced to take on the role of just a straight person.

I sort of feel like a again. I allowing myself to re-access my sexuality. I coming to pretty much the same conclusion as when I was 13 - that I am straight. The big difference now is that I don't feel artifically bound to being only that.

So the more things change (I am 64) the more that they stay the same. (I am 13).

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