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Tips for writing erotica
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Tips for writing erotica I am no pro in writing erotica, but I write a lot otherwise, and every time I read an erotic story, I tend to just opt out writing my own... In the following, I share a few things that simply puts a damper on the whole thing... Erotica is also VERY personal, so second guessing what others would want to hear is a risky business. Men especially are often too coy about their erotica. They spend a lot of time on caresses and cunnilingus, and it can get a bit boring to read those stories over and over - once you've read one guy giving you oral, you've pretty much lost interest in the rest, how many ways can you twirl your tongue around my clit anyway in text? Here are some of my observations - and I'm no professional either, but these are what get me off or put me off... 1. Avoid using I and you -phrasing. It gets too personal, and if you don't like what the writer is about to do to you, the rest of the story won't work, either. In contrast, if you write what Harry did to Sally, it doesn't matter nearly as much because Sally clearly enjoyed it and even if it wasn't your cup of tea so Harry is still OK. You can forgive those parts because it's done to Sally, while if it's done to you, you're like... No, I don't think so, mate. It's like having bad sex on your spare time!  2. Try to find more words than fuck, pussy, and cock. Those may well be the best basic words there is, but they jar the ear so bad when used in the wrong context. Too sappy expressions may have the same effect; making love when the couple is at a swinger's party may work in some cases, but even when the encounter is romantic, the expression is unlikely to work. 3. Forget the rules of what SHOULD be sexy. We've all heard that. Find something new that you might not even know anyone else thinking is sexy. See if you can explain something only you think is sexy in a way that will make them want to do the same thing. Challenge yourself. I personally often try to make polyandry sound romantic to traditional monogamists. Often failing.  4. Describe what YOU want to experience, rather than what you expect others to want to experience. That should work a thousand times better than a calculated move. 5. Within the limits of the law, do not avoid dark sexual topics, even if you're a man... Say exactly what you wish you could do and why - don't think others understand... And, use a second party to do the dirty work for you. (As in, don't write in "I" form, it gives you more freedom here.)6. Again, dropping "I" from the picture allows you to be completely honest in every way about how your characters are feeling. No need to reveal your own inner thoughts when you use a proxy. 7. Describe emotions, connotations, ideas, and focus less on what is physically happening. 8. Don't describe your characters too carefully unless it's important for your story to do so. You may be all for red headed plus sized girls, but that might not work too well for your reader. Let them decide what the sexiest person in the world looks like. 9. If there's a clear point in the story where an item of clothing is removed, make sure you tell the reader what the character is wearing before that item is removed. It gets annoying when you think the character is wearing a shirt, then it becomes clear she is wearing a top instead, and you have to change the way the girl was dressed in your mind to fit the story line. 10. Don't be afraid of using super sexy characters in your writing. It is common people tend to think it's cool to only use normal people in their stories, but hot people need attention, too. 11. Play with religion. It's no longer<b> illegal </font></b>to fuck a priest. 12. Don't give the exact age of your characters up, unless it's safe, for the sake of the story, to say they're 18 for example. For legal reasons, you might need to allow your reader to freely make the character a little younger than what is legal in their mind... (I swear it is NORMAL to want to go there in your mind.) 13. Don't bring up a condom or the birth control in the story unless you really feel it's necessary to do so, particularly if you feel you HAVE TO in order to be responsible. Don't be responsible. It's a fantasy, not a sex ed class. At the same time, sometimes it is distracting to know this couple is having sex in the middle of the mall on a Tuesday afternoon, knowing there'll be a lot of around at that time... Right? Make sure your characters have a THEORETICAL chance to get away with their indiscretions in the real world. 14. Drop your pretense. If you think fucking a 20-year old you paid for it when you're 55 is hot, tell it as it is. 15. Build your dream characters, particularly emotionally. What are they like? Is your perfect guy emotional? What about your perfect girl? Really? Are they a bit more bad boys and bad girls rather than these chaste girls like in 50 Shades of Gray where no bloke in their right mind would have wanted to fuck that girl. Drop the virgin worshipping unless you feel it yourself, and get back to virgin defiling that we all like to do. (Joking.)16. Study your emotional conflicts regarding sex... Sad or sexy? Girls, guys LOVE a girl who is baffled, insecure, and rattled, no need to hide that. Girls love guys who feel they are falling in love with a slut, jealous of her and what not... Again, don't let your main man be too much of a stud if he isn't. 17. Consider not writing the whole story but simply setting the scene for the events to take place so your reader can finish themselves up with that idea... 18. Taming people... People love the idea of the one they want deciding to TAME them for their own emotional and sexual needs. Imagine the hottest person you know, and now, imagine them wanting to use you for their sexual and romantic needs rather than the other way around... Hot, right? Do not fear to mix romance and love with the dirtiest fantasies there are. 19. Imagine the unraveling of the reservations, the boundaries coming lose, no matter if she's a virgin or whatever, we all tend to have our hangups. Imagine describing it when years of unsatisfying sex, your main character is finally being satisfied... 20. Do not share stories that are supposed to be "true stories" that simply make your readers think "Oh I'm so inadequate"... Really puts a damper on that boner... OK, enough. You got the gist of it! |
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