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I'm Fucking Mind, Body, Heart and Soul  

CenPhoCre8tv 45M
3 posts
1/18/2017 4:05 am
I'm Fucking Mind, Body, Heart and Soul


Smart, Funny, Creative Average Guys Finish First
Have you ever wondered why cutting to the chase get's some guys great results, while others just end up with a red handprint across their face, or radio silence? Yeah, neither have I, but just for the sake of learning something new, let's just go ahead and explore the topic, shall we?

We shall.

Now, fellas, unless you look like one of the men of Troy, you may find yourself having a very difficult time using the ol' dick pic and a "hey, wanna fuk?" approach. In fact...even if you look like one of the Troy extras, if you take the aforementioned approach, you probably won't be seeing any Trojans anytime soon. That was good for the people of Troy, but that's bad for you.

I know this is confusing for many of us, so let's just break it on down.

We're all here because we want sex, right, fellas? If that's the case, shouldn't a dick pick, a wink, a smile and an acronym be enough? Maybe for a dude, because we're visual - we are attracted by what we see at first, then the mind comes secondary. When it comes to females, this is NOT the case! In fact...all of that shit should come LAST. I repeat...most women don't want to see your dick. Yet. They want to feel something. Eventually, they want to feel the physical manifestation of the spiritual and emotional you (that would be your body, and yes, that includes your junk). At that point, by all means, fellas...bust out.

All the Feels & all the Thinks
Stimulate a woman's mind and evoke some emotion - be genuine, be funny, be sincere - be YOU, and if you don't like YOU, then change some shit, and then be YOU again, instead of bulldozing through life as the YOU you don't like and knocking shit down along the way because you're clumsy ass can't see where you're going. This is what separates an average man from an interesting one.

Slow the fuck down. Send a funny picture along with a funny note. Pay her a sincere compliment, but put your own spin on it. Be different. That's a great start. Did we men forget that women are emotional creatures? They must feel something. If you can't evoke an emotion that isn't anger, or provoke a thought besides disgust, then you're wasting your time - and hers.

Are We Honoring Sex, or Abusing It?
Maybe that's why you're here in the first place, fellas? Perhaps you've been so focused on sex and on that rush of an explosion that you've completely lost sight of the natural precursors to sex: Attraction, Trust, Intimacy, Romance, Emotion, Passion and Fun. Sex should be a healthy activity. Respect it.

Repeat After Me: "Women Are People..."
Guys, we see a beautiful woman, and the first thought that usually goes through our minds is, "wow, she is sexy." Right? We're not thinking "wow, she's a great person." or "she's someone's " or "she's looking like she could use a hug." - No. Our first thoughts are usually purely physical. That's a normal reaction...however, we're capable of thinking on a much deeper level. Open your eyes and take the time to look at a woman, or read her profile, or listen to the sound of her voice - look her in the eyes and LISTEN. She's telling you all you need to know. Just listen and respond with compassion and if nothing else, you win at life by default, and you may just win her affection, too.

'The Golden Rule' has Nothing to do with Your Penis Size
Once you take a few minutes to read a woman's profile and find out what she's about, If you feel you're a good fit for what she's looking for, by all means - tell her so. This also means that what's in your profile should say something about who you are. Be witty, funny, 'punny,' dirty or nasty. Just be yourself, and treat someone the way you would like to be treated, or at least how they would like to be treated - some of them want to use you, and some of them want to be abused, right? So, do it with respect, because it's their fantasy.

I'm no expert, but in just a few short months, I've learned that just because you're on a hookup site and you primarily want sex doesn't mean you should remove your brain or heart from the process of obtaining it. So, happy fishing, or fucking, or fetish-ing, or whatever it is you're doing here.

Go forth and do your thing, or her thing, with respect, originality and maybe a hint of plain old, good old fashioned mind, body, heart and soul.

pocogato12 71F  
37235 posts
1/18/2017 6:28 am

Just simply an amazing post!! Would that some of the men on this site would read it and cherish your words. Honesty goes a long way when the right approach is tempered with thoughtfulness

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CenPhoCre8tv replies on 1/18/2017 11:11 am:
Thanks so much for your encouragement on this topic - it certainly does. It's just so simple, yet we make it so complicated. Thank you for your help in finding my way around this place, too!

positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
1/18/2017 8:16 am

Smart man. Women here get approached, a lot, just due to the ratio. No wonder so many men will not succeed due to that ratio, but, due to their approach.
The smart ones will have a finesse in how they treat her to just get that meet.
The dick pic with the callous sexual remark rarely works. We still want to be treated as a person, not just a mindless fuck.


CenPhoCre8tv replies on 1/18/2017 11:13 am:
Yes, we all want to be treated like people. It's rare when I get a response or inquiry from a woman who just hasn't taken the time - most of the time they're bots, but the irony is, it's almost like the real dudes who are contacting you in that manner are bots, too! haha

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