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Electronic courtesy
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Electronic courtesy There's an old saying (not too old) that common courtesy is not that common. This is especially true online in electronic media, especially if the people involved are hiding behind a moniker or handle. I've been involved in electronic communication way back to 1981--way before what most of you know as the Internet (which came around about ten years later). We learned certain "rules" that kept electronic communication between technical people somewhat civil. Oh, sure, we had arguments about various topics, but we tried to maintain a certain level of professionalism. Today, all of that is thrown out the window. People can totally ignore other people. Some people take literally hours to compose a profile that is very specific telling what they want and don't want. Take the time to read those profiles (or you do deserve what you get or don't get)! If you don't spend any time writing a profile, then you basically got what you wanted! If you are a female or a couple, you will be inundated by all the horny males in here (and this site is a sausage-fest)! Likewise, however, if someone does spend the time to read your profile and send you a well thought-out message, don't be a dick and think it's okay to just ignore them. If you say in your profile that short one-liner messages will be ignored and then someone spends many minutes crafting a nice letter, how long does it take you to simply type in two letters, "no," and click on the send button? Five seconds? You spent more time reading the message and possibly looking up their profile! Sure, some of you do get inundated by messages. Again, spend some time in your profile so people don't waste their time sending you a message. Okay, they may still do so, but if they don't fit the bill that you clearly laid out in your profile, then they do deserve to be ignored. A good rule of thumb to follow if at all possible (and I'm not saying there aren't exceptions), but electronic communication should be the same as face-to-face personal communication. If you wouldn't walk up to a woman in public and say what you just wrote, that's probably not a good idea in electronic communication. If someone takes the time to say "hi" and try to strike up a conversation with you in person, do you just ignore them (well, yes, some you do, but most you probably don't unless you are really stuck on yourself!)? I doubt many people whom I communicate with will read this, but I wish a general guideline could be established: If I write to you and you aren't interested, just type "no" and click the send button. That's it. I wish Couples Dating would include a simple "not interested" button in the messaging system. And, while I don't think Couples Dating really cares (they, like most businesses, are driven by profit), a feature I wish they would implement is a way to "rate" other people in here, kind of like the auctions sites (EBay and Yahoo, for example) do. Allow rebuttals since some people like to troll and misunderstandings do happen, but if I knew someone was rated lowly for not responding, I wouldn't waste my time on them. They might eventually leave. That way, this site would have more serious people left on it. Couples Dating encourages people to be more active on this site; if the rude people left, it would leave the people who are more active-who spend time making their profiles specific and responding to people. By the way, for those of you who don't use messages (maybe you are just a regular member and can't read messages), presumably you spend most of your online time in the IM/chat area. Put that in your profile! The more you put in, the more likely you will find what you want to find in here. If you don't know at first, after you get inundated by the people you have zero interest, edit your profile! I'm biased, but I think something like this should be part of the new member stuff that everyone needs to read. Let's try to make common courtesy and little more common than it currently is. Okay? Thank you. |
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Thanks! You've presented a well-written posting with lots of good information / advice for the user of any electronic device! Agree that far too many posting/profiles are far too brief and don't address clearly what the poster is actually searching / looking to achieve.
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