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What you reap is what you sow?
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What you reap is what you sow? For the last 3-4 months I have been spending less time blogging here on Couples Dating, as I have been casting my line in the pond with plenty of fishes. It has been quite an interesting experience trying to find a relationship there as opposed to here, simply because the purported purposes of the two online dating sites are so different. One difference is the ratio of women to men is significantly better, at least from my prospective. And the other big difference is women aggressively contact men on the fish site, or I assume that is the norm judging from my experience there. I get a lot more profile views, more flirts, tagged as a favorite, and way more first contact messages, than happened on Couples Dating.  I popped online this afternoon and had a brief but interesting exchange with a lady. She contacted me to complement me on my profile… this has happened before, as my profile has become somewhat of a novelty there. I have been told men’s profile typically speaks about their non-relationship interests and are brief. If you have read my blog for a little while, you know I can be a tad bit long winded, so my profile there is a little lengthy, and it’s all about what I am hoping to find in a relationship and qualities of my partner. Truth be told, my profile was really born out of frustration… frustration from continually answering the same standard rhetorical interview questions… you know the ones. I just thought, stick this shit up front, scare off the romance novel readers, those who have not come to terms with their sexuality, and only real women would step up. Hasn’t exactly worked out that way, you know “the best laid plans of mice and men”, but that’s a blog post for a different day. Anyway what surprised me was where she was from… Inglewood, CA. Now on this other dating site, what is served up to you is local people since it’s a relationship based site, and I do get the occasional message from someone 4 to 6 hours away, (a friend told a friend, type deal), but California is a little off the beaten track from the greater Toronto area. Anyway what she like about my profile, was that I wrote about treating each other with civility in the online dating world. It seems the first thing that goes out the window in our online interactions is civility and positivity, which got me to thinking. I have always been a profile reader… I have blogged about interesting contradictions I come across in profiles on Couples Dating. For me, the words on a page can greatly enhance the visuals, or they can give me a “no thanks”, “you are going to be way too much work to co-exist with and not much fun” kind of vibe. We all want what we want, and have a list of things we would rather not deal with… the standard annoyances (fakes, flakes, pretenders, picture collectors, married pretending to be single, etc.), that we would all like to avoid. My question is what works best to get us what we want, positive or negative? For example, if you want someone to have a clear profile picture of their face, is it better to deliver a positive message… “Please provide a clear face shot so I can see your eyes, as it helps me to form an attraction to you and want to respond”… or the negative… “No picture, or a picture where you are wearing sunglasses, or too far away, or blurry, and I will delete your message and block you”… Which method do you think works best in your own profile? If you were reading a profile, which style would turn you off?  Find pleasure in giving pleasure |
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I've even noticed, men get scolded as they read a profile here. I tried not to do that, but then again, Im not really looking for expecting much here.
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I don't read many profiles nowadays. But when I did, I preferred profiles to be specific in what they were looking for but to have a positive tone. Some profiles lay down too many rules and can be offputting. 
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Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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I've even noticed, men get scolded as they read a profile here. I tried not to do that, but then again, Im not really looking for expecting much here. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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I don't read many profiles nowadays. But when I did, I preferred profiles to be specific in what they were looking for but to have a positive tone. Some profiles lay down too many rules and can be offputting. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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I think my profile has become too demanding but it doesn't dissuade the clowns who can't be bothered to read it. I sometimes get liars sending me emails where they say they read my profile but ironically, if they had, they would have realised that emailing me was a waste of time. My profile states rather bluntly what I do and don't want and I also get the types who say 'your profile was so long that I couldn't memorise all the details'... All I ask is that they compare the details to how much they do or don't fit them and if they don't and don't know me as a blogland friend, to not waste our time. I think it is possible to fail miserably with the positive message style of 'please include a clear face pic so I can see your eyes and maybe get a sense of connection to you' can make the person sound soft and wishy-washy regardless of how much they aren't because a lot of people who are using this site are using it mostly to perve and masturbate and aren't thinking clearly by the time they've looked at someone's pics and decided to send an email and the number of people on here who actually read profiles is less than one in 175. I find that clear statements work best with aroused men. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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I no longer read profiles here..hugsssssss V Become a blog watcher sweet_vm
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I like a profile that is relevant - if there is a preference for a certain physical property - state it if you are looking for a LTR say so... define what it means to YOU ie - well endowed would be better if they say 8 to 10 inches Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Positivity for sure. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Buni! You thinking humor is important   Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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I guess it's effective then. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Yes, Yes, yes, Sis. Contradictions always leaves me scratching my head. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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I haven't read your profile in a while...I will have to visit.  Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Yes! I have definitely gotten more offer there than here, and run into many ladies who once were or are an Couples Dating member. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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positive is generally more attractive,..and more effective,...I tdry to focuson the positive,..but am not always successful  Good girls go to heaven,....Bad girls go EVERYWHERE! I love to travel  Come visit my blog tigger678902
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positive is generally more attractive,..and more effective,...I tdry to focuson the positive,..but am not always successful Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Glad you are a profile reader. So am I. It is important to read the information provided in it. So you will know whether or not to contact the person. Thanks for posting and sharing. Hugs! A única alegria isenta de amargura é a de bem proceder.
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Hi Sandy, For the most part, parts is parts! What separates ok, from good, great and exceptional is the big sex organ, (the stuff between the ears). The profile write-up, give us a glimpse for sure. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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I'm glad you are successful with your profile. I did try to keep my blog interesting. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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