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Sex toys and bondage...  Two things keep coming up over and over in conversations with a couple of Couples Dating friends of mine. First is about our ideas around kinkiness. We all like to push the sexual envelope, more specifically in terms of domination and submission scenarios. One of my friends has experimented with D&S on both the receiving and giving ends. For the other, he's all about being dominant. There pretty much isn't a submissive bone in his entire body and I wouldn't have him any other way. For me I do prefer being on the submissive end of the D&S experience. I had one complete and total sub-experience that seriously blew my mind and was wicked fun beyond anything I had imagined. There is something particularly enticing about being under someone's control that just gets me going. On the other hand, I also have had a couple of Domme experiences that were interesting as well. One of them was purely mental and all online. I had been talking with another Couples Dating friend that wanted me to be his Domme so we were<b> experimenting </font></b>with that via email and chat for a while. To be completely honest, I found it a bit exhausting. It was and/or is now definitely not in my nature to be completely domineering sexually, and in particular this having to make stuff up that I wanted him to do virtually was just weird to me. Had I had more experience in real life or if we had been together in person it might have been different but I just couldn't get into it very much, so after a couple months of trying to make it work I just had to call it a day. Interesting while it lasted to be sure. Getting back to my other friend though, we actually had an in-person experience with me being dominating that was more, ummm, productive than my virtual domatrixing. Ha ha, is that even a word? It is now! But that get us to the second topic of conversation, which is about sex toys. One of the reasons that our encounter was successful with me in the domme role was all about the toys and apparatus that I had at my disposal. He actually has a fuck bench with shackles for the arms and legs and straps to hold your head down as well. Once I had him in that particular contraption it was very easy to get creative. Cock ties, vibrators, spanking, and of course sliding underneath for easy access to the goods! But as I said before, I do prefer to be on the submissive end of things. Much to my pleasure, just a couple weeks ago my favorite fb introduced me to a new toy he had purchased. We didn't take any pics of me in it (yet!) but I did find these ones online that pretty much are the same thing, and also pretty much show me in the two basic positions that this thing allows.  It's your basic spreader bar, with four Velcro straps attached to the bar to put your wrists and ankles into. It was incredibly easy to get into. I think it took less than a minute to get it attached. There are two primary things that the bar then does for you and your partner. First, it pretty much immobilizes the person in it. When I got into it I was on my back and I really couldn't move much at all, other than perhaps rolling myself into a ball and trying to roll away. But, nah, that would have defeated the whole purpose so was not happening. I definitely couldn't move my legs, and my knees were separated by my arms so I couldn't get those together either. It was a pretty provocative position to be in, that's for sure. I also couldn't use my hands. That was probably the part that took the most time to get used to. I usually use my hands a lot - caressing, touching, grabbing, stroking... you name it. In the bar though I couldn't touch anything. Even myself. I could kind of reach my feet to hold on but that was about it. Eventually I stopped trying and just went with it. At some point in our little bondage adventure, I got rolled over into the other pictured position. It's your basic doggy. Done it a million times. Well ok, maybe not a million but you know what I mean. The thing that the spreader bar does though is keep you absolutely in the perfect position the whole time. There just is no moving. Usually when I am doing doggy, I will get moved forward and sometimes will have my head down or sometimes will be up on my hands. Lots of movement is actually possible. With the bar, there just isn't any. You are set up to get fucked, plain and simple. And because I couldn't move anyway, that was the entire focus of my attention. I didn't have to think about where my hands were, or if my knees were sliding forward, or if I had to readjust my arch. It was too fucking perfect. All in all, I'd give the spreader bar a big thumbs up! We will definitely be using that toy again! Question for the day: Have you tried one of these yourself? Please share your experiences Hope you enjoyed it! Until next time... |
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Sweet ! Love to see you in the new toy !
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I think most people have either dominant or submissive qualities, and some (like me) can express both easily. Once you experience it live, virtual/online doesn't compare. I have a spreader bar that I made and used on my sub. I had her face down, ass up, and the scene focused on ass play. I had easy access to play with her ass, flogged and paddled her a bit, and ended with anal sex. That was a hot scene.  My domme will probably use it on me at some point, although I'm not quite as flexible as my sub. [post 3097853] Come join the half-nekkid fun! Check out HNW Bloggers.  
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I could not be submissive.......I usually a soft core dominant type. That said I did have a few encounters with a woman who wanted me to rough with her and I obliged.... Click Here To Read A Hot Erotic Story: When A Woman Meets A Stranger Part 1 of 4
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I have never tried it but I have done some light bondage using ropes to tie the lady to the bed and some velcro straps to bind wrists to ankles. I have been thinking about getting a spreader bar. I'll take your blog as a customer review. BTW love your profile and blog. TNman 
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1 post 12/12/2014 10:57 am |
I love to be with a submissive her first time really experiencing it. There is a certain freedom in letting yourself go sexually that can't be replicated elsewhere. Glad you're enjoying your experiences!
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I should get one of those. I think my wife would like it a lot. I think she had one with a girlfriend way back when, but I think the girlfriend kept it when they split. I also think it would be hot to get a professional dominatrix to dominate both of us. I'd like to indulge her submissive side but it gets her really hot, and when she gets really hot I tend to get too horny to stay focused on my part.
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2/5/2015 8:55 am |
I think most people rank somewhere on the dom/sub spectrum and also on the exhibitionist./ voyeur spectrum... I'm a dom/exhibitionist.
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