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Painful Love…the kiss of the cane and how it should be done.
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Painful Love…the kiss of the cane and how it should be done. Spanking is a very pleasurable experience for both spanker and spankee, however for some women, spanking just isn’t enough. Some of you want more pain and that’s where the<b> cane </font></b>comes into play. I get a lot of requests for canings so I thought I would give you some information on how I<b> cane </font></b>naughty girls. I<b> cane </font></b>to any requirements, ranging from light, erotic caning through to full on punishment canings where you will be severely thrashed and if the information below isn't enough fro you, drop me a message and i will tell you more. Some women want to feel the overwhelming pain because they simply love it and the endorphins it releases. Indeed some are totally addicted to it. Others love the vulnerability aspect which comes with it and others simply need to be really punished for something they have done and others because they feel worthless and want to be punished to build up their self-esteem so, you must read your spankee accurately before anything happens. This is very important because you will be causing extreme pain and in many cases, serious marking your spankee’s bare bottoms and if you get it wrong, not only are you creating a lot of problems for the lady concerned, you are also putting yourself at risk, therefore, I have a golden rule that I never break which is to meet with the lady concerned before anything happens so we can get to know each other and also see if the chemistry is there. And you do need the chemistry aspect, because you are taking them on a journey and they journey is theirs, not yours, so you have to know exactly what you are doing. There is also the damage aspect which you need to consider. The cane, if used incorrectly, is a vicious instrument, and will draw blood, cause extensive bruising and long term injury so ladies, if you are considering being caned, make sure the spanker knows exactly what they are doing because if they don’t, you could end up with long term injuries. The other consideration you have to make is the shape, size and type of bottom, the spankee has. If they are slim and have small bottoms, the strength of the strokes will need to be significantly lower than if they have big, rounded bottom. This is to do with the cushioning effect of the flesh on the cheeks. Minimal flesh means you are going to hit muscle and quite possibly bone which will cause excessive bruising and other problems. Lots of flesh means you can<b> cane </font></b>harder and for longer and produce the desired effect over a longer period of time. If this all sounds a little clinical, that is because on this issue, it is because some women like to be really thrashed hard so they have to be aware of the risks involved. Having said that, I do know exactly what I am doing so excessive, long term damage will never happen with me. The next thing you have to consider are the psychological aspects for the spankee. For women who just love the pain aspect, once you have positioned them correctly, and I will cover that below, you can get on with the job in hand and give them the thrashing they desire. Of course there are techniques for doing this which I will also cover below, but for those women who love the vulnerability aspects, you have to know how to satisfy their needs which means you have to know what they want and what they don’t want. You would think it was easy, but it is never straight forward because everyone is different and speaking for myself only, I like to ensure the spankee gets as much from the session as possible so I fully explore the psychological side with them. To put this into perspective, I will tell you about a lady I recently caned who liked to be tied up, bent over a chair and have me look at her in that position for a while, lecturing her on her behaviour, before caning her. Her name was Clara, she was 33 years old, with blond hair, around 5ft 7in tall and had a rounded figure with a nice, firm bottom. I know this because I looked at it when we met to see how I was going to<b> cane </font></b>her. Remember the difference between the different types of bottom as mentioned above. Also, she found that quite a turn on especially as I exposed her bare bottom in a multistory car park and had a good look and feel. We had spoken about what she wanted and after agreeing on a course of action, I went to her house to punish her one Sunday afternoon. She wanted to be bent over the back of a chair, tied to it in a way where she couldn’t move and have me lecture her and look at her before I caned her. She wanted a real caning to tears and beyond and wanted her bottom welted all over. My kind of girl. I had told her beforehand that once I start, there was no going back and no matter what she did or said, she was going to be thrashed long and hard. I saw her eyes light up when I told her that and it was very obvious that the prospect of this was really turning her on. You see, like I said, it is never straight forward as she had never been caned before but I had read her correctly and knew this was just as much a sexual experience for her as a punishment scenario. She was wearing a shortish skirt and blouse and white panties so I saw a low hard backed chair in her lounge and after placing two cushions on it to make sure the chair didn’t pres against her tummy and the front of her hips, I told her to bend right over the back of it with her head right down on the front of the chair and her body resting on the seat area. I then lifted her skirt to expose her panty covered bottom and then sat down on a sofa facing her face and looked at her. She looked back at me from down by the floor and I took in the shape of her bottom bent over the chair, from the front and left her in that position for about 5 minutes, just looking at her. I then took some rope and ties her wrists to the front chair legs and then went around behind her and reached under her, undid the catch holding her skirt together and after lifting her up slightly, I pulled her skirt right off. She gasped at that so I put my hand on her bottom and rubbed it all over her panties and down onto her pussy, feeling its wetness. This had her gasping very quickly and I then came and sat back on the sofa and looked at her again. I could tell by the look on her face that she was very turned on and she started back at me with that look in her eyes that said,<b> cane </font></b>me now….. please, but I wasn’t ready yet. I then walked around behind her and slowly pulled her panties down over her tightly bent bottom and down her legs and off her feet. I then dropped them down on the floor by her head to show her that she was now totally vulnerable. As I put my hands on her now fully bared bottom she gasped and then began moaning as I played with her pussy. In that position everything was in full view and I then kissed her bottom and pussy which quickly had her moaning and saying “ ok fuck “. She was loving it already. I now came around to the front, and pulled her blouse right down to her head, pulling it over her breasts and then undoing her bra and moving it forward so her breast were now both out and then cupped them, gently rubbing her nipples to get the erect. This brought on a long moan and she was moving her hips from side to side slightly as I put my hands back onto her bottom, running my fingers up and down between her cheeks and down onto her pussy. I then sat back down on the sofa again and then gave her a long lecture about her past behaviour and then went on to tell her that I was going to<b> cane </font></b>her really hard and that she would be crying and yelling, but I was not going to stop until her bare bottom was covered in red stripes, all over. She gasped and moaned really loudly at this so I told her more and it was very obvious she was near to orgasm so I then stood up, walked over to her and put my hands on her bottom and then started smacking her. I always give a spanking first as this provides a warm up and in her case, gave her an orgasm. We like giving orgasms. Her bottom was very firm under my hand and she was slapped very hard, starting with slow, heavy slaps which then got faster and harder until she was a nice pink colour and she was gasping and giving a small yell with each slap. Now she was ready for the caning. Now before I go on with this story, I want to talk about positioning and the type of canes I use. I always bend a lady over the back of a chair or armchair/sofa, or the arm of an armchair or sofa because them stretched the bottom right out and also flattens the cheeks. This is important because it gives you the full length of the bottom as a target which means you can give the overwhelming levels of pain with minimal damage. Accuracy is very important because if you continually hit the same spot, you will break the skin very quickly and cause extensive bruising to one area only. By having the bottom bent high in the air so that its full length is available to you, you can spread the stokes over the full area and if done in the right sequence, you will quickly have the spankee feeling the pain, which at the end of the day, it is all about. In terms of canes, I use bamboo canes. I know you can buy these canes from the net, but nothing is as good as real bamboo and I purchase mine from garden centres, choosing specific items for their length, thickness and ripeness. New bamboo is much more flexible than older ones, so if they have some green in their colour, they are ideal. I also soak them in water for a couple of days to make them more flexible and then sand down all the little knobs and sharp bits so they are nice and smooth and I always sand the end as if you don’t, this will rip into the skin and break it. We have all seen caning videos where the end of the<b> cane </font></b>leaves massive welts and breaks the skin and this is simply because the end of the<b> cane </font></b>is too sharp. By sanding it so it is curved and smooth, you completely eliminate this damage. The soaking aspect is also important because if you don’t soak them, they will break with the heavy impacts which is not what you want, so by soaking them first, you make them nice and flexible. I also use bamboo for another reason. Unlike solid canes, bamboo allows a high level of surface pressure to be achieved on each stroke across the whole width of the bottom which creates very high levels of pain, without causing excessive damage and I like to use long, thin ones as they have a nice whippy effect which will soon have you howling. This brings us onto technique. Despite what you may have heard, there is a definite technique in caning a woman. The trick is to cover both cheeks with each stroke, covering the whole length of the bottom. To do this properly, you have to get your distance right, related to the length of the cane, and the spankees bottom has to be at the right height. As I am just over 6 ft tall, this is why I always prefer bending a naughty lady over the back of a chair, or armchair, sofa, etc but if this isn’t possible, I will make my spankee kneel up on a table or a bed to get it high and bent tight enough. The other important aspect is to<b> cane </font></b>from both sides, rather than just one side. If you<b> cane </font></b>from just one side, the end of the<b> cane </font></b>will just damage the opposite cheek which gets the job done, but risks excessive damage. I always<b> cane </font></b>from both sides as it spreads the pain and if you do the strokes in small batches of six or ten strokes, as I do, before the finale, you will keep the pain levels right up there and also makes it much more erotic. In some cases, I will also<b> cane </font></b>a really naughty girl between the cheeks from behind, however, I want to make this very clear, if you<b> cane </font></b>someone really hard in this area, you will cause injury so I always use relatively soft strokes but lots of them. Believe me, nothing brings a women to the point of orgasm than caning them like this. Going back to Clara’s situation. I had chosen a long, thin<b> cane </font></b>for her and now rested it across both cheeks, getting the distance right and then running it over both cheeks and then standing behind her and resting it between her cheeks. This had her gasping and then I gave her six fast, very soft strokes between the cheeks to get her wet. Then the real caning began. I gave her 12 hard, slow strokes from the right, laying the<b> cane </font></b>fully across both cheeks and leaving a few seconds before the next one. I then walked around to her right and gave her another 12 strokes from that side. She was gasping by the tenth stroke and yelling really loudly by the twelfth. I now came back around to her left hand side and moved in closer, gripping the<b> cane </font></b>down half its length and then put my left hand on the small of her back and then gave her 24 medium strength fast strokes on the lower part of her bottom and this very quickly had her wriggling and yelling. I then followed this with 6 full force strokes which had her howling. She was almost crying but not quite there yet, so I repeated this from the other side and now the tears were flowing. I now stopped and went and sat down on the sofa and looked down at her again. I could see the tears in her eyes but also the longing for more and she then told me to finish her off really hard, “ thrash me……please, really thrash me “ is what she actually said to me so I sat looking at her for another 5 mins or so and then stood up and walked over to her and stood on her right hand side, resting the<b> cane </font></b>between her cheeks. I now rubbed my hand over her welted cheeks and down onto her pussy and she was quickly squirming and moaning as I out my fingers deep inside her and then kissed her welted bottom. I then told her that she was now going to get a full force caning which will hurt really badly and that I want going to finish until her bare bottom was welted all over. She suddenly got very wet and then had an orgasm, yelling it out. Yes my fingers were in her pussy, but I know it was the words I had used and the prospect of receiving this caning that had done the trick. But now it was time for the trashing. I told her to move her bottom forward a little bit because I knew she would be kicking her legs out and after she had, I made sure she was comfortable over the back of the chair and I also checked her wrists to make sure the rope wasn’t cutting into her skin. I allowed her a few minutes to prepare herself and then I started. I started with quick, full for strokes across both cheeks, not giving her time to recover between strokes and very quickly she was yelling and kicking and then I have her harder strokes, landing them from the top of her bottom all the way down and then landing six across the area where the cheeks meet the backs of the legs. This is a very sensitive area and very soon she was crying and sobbing, gasping between strokes and kicking, so I made the strokes harder and faster. She had received a good 40 strokes by now and her bottom was covered in red welts so I then stepped around to her right hand side and now gave her 50 hard, fast strokes, really whipping the last ten down hard which had her screaming. I then repeated this on her right hand side and then stopped to look at her bottom. There were now a few areas that looked like they would bruise up if I continued so I deemed her punishment was over. She was now sobbing and crying so I untied her and let her lay over the chair until she had recovered. I then gently rubbed her cheeks and kissed them which quickly had her moaning and as I considered she was actually a very brave lady, I used my tongue on her pussy to give her an orgasm and she then asked me to fuck her in that position, so I did. She said afterwards that it was the best caning she had ever had and we did it another 5 times. So now you know what a proper caning should be like so if your man is not doing this for you, then I would suggest you find a new spanker. The bottom line ( pun intended ) is that caning if done right is a very rewarding experience, however, if don’t wrong, it can cause really excessive damage and long term injury so hopefully this will explain the pitfalls of choosing the wrong person to<b> cane </font></b>you. And ladies, if you would like to be caned like this, then I am just a message away. |
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