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We don't understand
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We don't understand You're on an adult site geared towards meeting like minded individuals, couples or groups, for friendship and more. Everyone on this site understands this and meets the age of consent requirements. Inevitably, you encounter someone which you do not mesh with, it happens in everyday life, why should it not happen here. The question is, why do most people on this site react differently here then they would anywhere else? Let's try this to illustrate our point... You're driving down the road and you become momentarily distracted (answering a call, talking to your passenger, reaching for tissue, whatever). During the distraction, you inadvertently drift into the next lane and cut off another motorist headed in the same direction. You get an angry honk, a dirty look, maybe a "learn to drive, jag-off!" yelled at you. Now, no one likes getting yelled at, no one likes it when someone flips them the bird but, my bad, I cut this guy off, I'll own this, sorry dude, nothing personal. They turn one way, you turn another, it's over, life goes on. I'd guess that similar type of scenario is fairly common in day to day living. Why, then, is it so different in a chat room on this site? We've seen it happen before, and we've probably caused it a time or two ourselves. Someone goes into a chat room and starts having a conversation. During the conversation, you say something and unintentionally insult or offend someone else in the room. Next thing you know, lights, camera, DRAMA! Swearing back and forth, insults, insinuation, scrapping like the Hatfield and McCoys. The thing that we find is that a lot of people don't hit the ignore button or simply walk away from the sudden outbreak of the Springer show, they invite it. A poorly worded comment one day has escalated into near hand to hand combat days, weeks and sometimes, monthes later. We were having a conversation with someone recently when we were interrupted by some fellow Couples Dating'er who apparently held a grudge against the people we were talking to. Both parties became so wrapped up in their feud with each other that they probably didn't notice that they had chased the majority of people out of the room in less then 5 minutes. Can anyone explain this to us? Maybe because we have been out of junior high for so long we have forgotten why these things happen in the first place. We just don't understand why a good number of people on this site will stick around and engage in an argument or continue a fight rather than just ignore someone who is obviously just trying to get a rise out of them. We just don't understand... |
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