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Simple Minds on The Advice Line
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Simple Minds on The Advice Line Recently (as in last night)I posted a question on the Advice Line. It was asking for advice to help me better understand a friend who I am getting close with that told me about her shyness. It being the advice line, I thought I would get some advice, and did not dream of getting attacked... I actually thought it was a good question, for a change of what's often there. In asking the question, FIRST MISTAKE was to state what my opinion was and to admit that it was NOT a good attitude to have. What I learned was two things: Criticizing people (or being seen as criticizing) for being shy, set off more than a few angry and upset responses. Among these responses were accusations that I am Psychotic, and threats to kick my ass and lectures about how rotten a person I am for asking such a question and not having the correct attitude. Judge, Jury, Executioner. So if any of you who were offended are actually reading this: I meant no harm, nor disrespect, and simply wanted to learn more about a type of person who I did not know much about. I thought that I took pains to be respectful in the original post, and also, to own that my attitude was not a great one to have. Guess some missed that part. What I should have known better about is: 1. Some people REACT and attack, they miss the point and get quite nasty. 2. Much of this is due to simple-mindedness, as in not carefully reading the OP and getting what my intentions were. False assumptions, attacks, and accusations, when really all I was trying to do was to be more empathetic by asking the question in the first place. So I guess that people on Couples Dating would much prefer the regular drivel, i.e penis size, or have their little pissing wars. My thanks to the several who did give me thoughtful answers instead of jumping on the pig pile. These were helpful. "If you wind up a bunch of robots, they do what robots do..."  |
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I read and responded to your post and read what others said. Personally, I didn't see anything terribly negative about your response to shyness. But I also didn't see a whole lot of negative response to your question. As so often happens, did you read something into the response that was not in fact there? That happens quite often in the internet, under the best of circumstances. People misreading the response, or reading something into it that was not intended, and then berating the responder for what was not there nor intended. Go back in a few days, when calm has returned, to review what you wrote, and what respondents wrote.
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so i went to read it...a bit of constructive criticism, you missed the mark  ..i think you figured that one out and henceforth this blog..that still doesnt give people the ok to attack you, you have every right to ask someones opinion on something they should give you just that their opinion, personally i dig shy men, they mesh well with my personality...    je ne regrette rien
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