Reset Password
If you've forgotten your password, you can enter your email address below. An email will then be sent with a link to set up a new password.
Cancel
Reset Link Sent
If the email is registered with our site, you will receive an email with instructions to reset your password. Password reset link sent to:
Check your email and enter the confirmation code:
Don't see the email?
  • Resend Confirmation Link
  • Start Over
Close
If you have any questions, please contact Customer Service
Forgot password?
Blogs > rm_markeyinmelb > My Blog

What makes a good lover  

rm_markeyinmelb 53M
Ask me for a photo
14 posts
10/4/2008 7:20 pm
What makes a good lover

A really open question I suppose.

I dont want to talk about what i like and what I am like, as i beleive to classify yourself a certain way is a little arrogant.

Anyways.

Does a good lover start with the visual aspect. I find many people I speak to are intersted in seeing a picture within minutes of talking to someone. Does this mean they are superficial, hell you may not be a model, but a great lover.

Some think personality is the key. A good lover is receptive to listening, talking and discusssing sex with the partner. But if you dont get past the visual aspect, then this you would never find out.

Is it actual performance in bed that counts?

Does pounding the pavewalk so to speak for 1 hour make you a good lover, or does that mean you are a good stayer. Does having ultimate foreplay comlement this or does forewplay alone make you a good lover.

Not saying that one is right or one is wrong, just an open thought, happy to hear comments if you so wish to add a reply.

Thanks... Mark.

uniquegirl69 54F
Ask me for a photo

10/4/2008 7:54 pm

 Hmmm good question and hard to answer... maybe the answer is some of all of the above...
I think people ask for a photo to try to ascertain that you are who you say you are..that is, you say you are 35, but are really 58...this happened to a friend of mine once, so a photo is another form of validation, although not infallible obviously.
A good lover is someone sensitive to their parnter's needs. Whatever they may be..
Personality comes into it when looking for something longer term, a friend with benefits/ long term partner, not so much in a one night stand for some.
A really good question, you have me thinking about it now Mark, thanks.
M x


Candy4u17 60F

10/4/2008 9:38 pm

 I think the word, "lover" itself holds the answer. A man who can truly love with his heart makes a good lover. Throw away the technical sex manuals. Just try to find someone you truly love and the rest will fall into place.

Of course, this is from a woman's point of view!


Become a member to create a blog