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Carol's interest in Interracial
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Carol's interest in Interracial Carol’s interest in the lifestyle, with regards interracial has developed over many, many years and has a number of factors that got her where she is. It all started with us chatting before we were even married back around 1970. Of course, back then her doing interracial really wasn’t even discussed or considered and this was with a young girl who was a virgin when I met her. Part of what fascinated her about me was all of the experiences I had (which included some interracial dating and sex). We got married in late 1971. However, she strayed once during our engagement in response to my handful of indiscretions during that same period. We BOTH promised to end all that ‘strange stuff’ seeking once we were married but we still talked about it somewhat now and then. I actually kept my promise to be faithful to her also but Carol didn’t trust me and thought I had strayed and she ‘got even’. Of course, neither of us can handle our conscience telling us to ‘fess up’ and her encounter came out one night which, I viewed as a license to go ahead when some woman waved her pussy under my nose. I didn’t stray a lot… maybe 3 or 4 times over the next 4 years however it always came up in conversation sooner or later. It was these conversations that led us to the next step. As I mentioned, Carol (who is 4 years younger than  enjoyed hearing all of my tales of places I’d been and things I had done and also, the encounters I had experienced especially in light of being a US Navy veteran for 4 years. It was to a great extent, the fact that I had had lots of sexual encounters before our marriage and missed them… and the fact that she had not and missed NOT having them… that got us into the lifestyle finally in 1975.Carol to this day is sometimes hot and cold on the lifestyle and this led to three gaps in our lifestyle activities that covered 3 years, 4 years, and one span of 12 years. It was during our first active period that one evening, I asked her if she would ever consider being with a black man. A couple of months ago, she had told me of an incident where she worked where a young black girl had shown her a reveling photo of her boyfriend and he was hung twice as large as anything she had ever seen up to that point. Her answer about being with a black man was “No, not interested, they don’t turn me on, I don’t think I could handle it”. And with that, I dropped the subject. And, if the truth be told here… I wasn’t disappointed that my wife wasn’t interested in being with a black man. Being born in 1948, there was a lot of programming that had been applied to me by friends and family and even though I had been with about three black ladies at that point… knowing that my wife had been with a black man was not something I was instantly comfortable with… AT ALL! I suspect that sooner or later, she would have ultimately crossed that bridge but something else happened that put it on the fast tract. At the time, we were actively playing with couples and having an occasional MFM or FMF 3some and she had even had some more or less ‘solo’ experiences. But, one thing she had never done was girl-girl. And, she was interested in trying that to see if she might enjoy it. So, the focus was totally off her doing a black man and the hunt started for the right lady. And,we found her. Now, the thing is… it just so happened that she happened to be black but the honest truth is that race difference was almost forgotton in light of the larger introduction into girl-girl stuff. Any hang-ups I might have had about seeing her with a black man played no factor in it nor did either of us see her having a girl-girl encounter with an African American being a lead-in to being with an African American Male. I won’t get into details in this blog entry about the encounter other than to say it went quite well. And, about a month after it happened, I re-asked her if she would ever consider being with a black male and this time… there were no real objections. Some concerns and fears of course but definitely not something she was ruling out. And, it wasn’t long after that that someone was ‘selected’ to be her first. This first encounter with a black male is another whole LONG blog entry itself so I will defer that tale to another day. Let’s just say that night went VERY BADLY. Afterwards, her comments were essentially ‘Never again!’. But, NEVER turned out to be about 6 months and this encounter was GREAT for us both. It was with a black couple. Running out of time here… have to return to work after lunch time so quickly, what followed was a long time frame over that first 4 year period in the lifestyle where taken as a percentage, the number of black males she was with at least caught up with the number of white males. I used to enjoy teasing her and asking her if she had a preference and she always maintained that there was no ‘preference’ at all. It all depended upon the WHO, the WHERE, the WHEN, and WHAT HAPPENED. But, it was obvious to me that she did have a preference even if she didn’t realize it herself. Again, due to the shortness of time… my questions about which she preferred continued for many years and she maintained her stance that it did not matter. Then, I started noticing something that happened more than one might expect. It had to do with us setting around in the living room and watching TV. Seems that she unknowingly started giving herself away about what ‘attracted’ her. Seems she would occasionally comment about whether some actor (or actress) was, in her words… handsome or a ‘real looker’ or gorgeous or some other comment that indicated their physical attributes excited her. And, without exception… these actors and actresses were ALL black. I never heard her comment on a white actor/actress that I can remember. Well, to finish this up… only within the last 5 or 6 years has she not only admitted she has a preference… she has stated that she feels more comfortable in the arms of a black man and that certain attributes such as a ‘Darth Vader’ DEEP, definitely African American voice on the phone was a huge trigger of her interest. Later on, she even said she had no interest in white guys at all anymore although she had shown that long before admitting it because she would always say ‘Nah’ when a white guy contacted us and I showed her his picture and profile. Anyway… got to get back to work. This blog posting was inspired due to a nice letter by someone who has yet to even talk to Carol on the phone but… I suspect he will be in her bed soon. |
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9/16/2008 10:50 am |
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No problem on reprinting. Let me know where I can see it.
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You write extremely well! i'd enjoy the opportunity, someday, of reading more of your creative skills.Carol is definitely a woman who enjoys pleasing her men. i'll volunteer to be on the short list of those men who greatly enjoy cumming in her mouth,. i understand, that is her (and your) new goal. big......ells
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Just read this post and think it is wonderful how you are so at ease with your wife's boyfriends and lovers, especially given her preference. You wrote that "she just feels more comfortable in the arms of a Black man..." This is what I've been searching for all my life, as if it were an instinct, and am just now beginning to seek out now that hubby seems more content to occupy himself in my pantyhose and surfing gay porn. Your blog is an inspiration to me. Thanks. Deb.
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I to was in the Navy and it was there that I found out that no matter where in the world I was, people will be basicly nice if treated with respect. Iam glad your wife and you have the understanding and don't confuse sex with love. Love your openness and willingness to make her happy. Maybe one day soon she will here my James Earl Jones, Barry White voice and be interested.
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My best to both of you and hope that i can meet Carol soon
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