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Outing Flakes And No Shows
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Outing Flakes And No Shows I have been on this site almost 10 years. When I set up a meeting I always show. I was raised to do what you say you're going to do and mean what you say. if something prevents me from showing up to a pre-arranged meeting, I let the person know. It's important. It builds trust. It defines your character. Over the years I've met my share of flakes and no-shows. I try to think having been on the site and experienced this on more than one occasion, that I've gotten relatively good at weeding out the flakes. This morning proved me wrong. I received a text message from a guy I met on this site about two weeks ago. He has been pestering me for the last week to meet up with him. This morning was no different. I've been putting him off because he lives a couple hours north in Nebraska. He knows the distance but insists it's no obstacle for him to travel to me. He knows I'm tired from my activities last night. He wants to bring me breakfast. So, I say, "Fuck it. Come down." He texts back almost immediately saying, "I'm on my way and what do you want me to bring you for breakfast?" I assume he's being honest. I jump in the shower and make myself presentable. Hours go by. No word. Nothing. Nada. Not even after I text to ask if he changed his mind. See, I believe in giving people an out. I texted back after waiting another hour informing him he just made my block list and chastising him for being a flake. So the obvious question is, do you believe in outing people on your blog for flaking out? Is is poor social etiquette or do you consider it a public service announcement to warn other members so they don't waste their time dealing with these flakes? |
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out em..as barretta used to say..dont do the crime if ya cant do the time.. woop woop
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it's boorish behavior and a PSA would be appropriate.
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The sad reality is when posting this idea. The people that have been burned might seek some vindication.Sadly. Maybe in the future if they're traveling to where you are you could tell them to call you when they get there.That would seem much more appropriate. Anyone truly interested would understand.Then it's your choice. Using more than all the road!
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I’ve been reading your post almost from when I started blogging a year ago. I believe what you post is true. That said . . . do you know if maybe he isn’t wrecked in a ditch or something where he cannot reply? Remote but possible. do you believe in outing people on your blog for flaking out? It is a form of revenge. Does he (or anyone) deserve that, possibly yes, possibly no. Here is a quote I like: “How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.” Is it poor social etiquette or do you consider it a public service announcement to warn other members so they don't waste their time dealing with these flakes? IMO, social media is really quite anti-social I try not to contribute to that. A PSA yes possibly but are the people who might meet him actually see it since the blogger are a very small percentage of all who are here. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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in the years that i have been on here, i have only had one meeting, but lots of people have blogged about no shows
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FOOLS! all 
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1/18/2016 4:44 am |
Out the bastards!!!! If nothing else it will make you feel better.
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Very rude with the situation as there is a lot of work and preparation to get to know someone, decide to move forward with a meeting, opening up with some trust and anticipation. Being on here should be one place that one can be open with what each other is looking for, some people are married looking for something extra or single looking to explore new experiences. Be honest with your situation and more forward, there are plenty of people in similar situations. Should they be called out publically not sure? But definitely they need a verbal thrashing and trying to figure these out can be difficult. I wonder these things myself and chatting with someone off and on for a year and similar. So I can understand totally - but if we meet she will be punished - lol, but she likes \wants a good spanking. Always enjoy your blogs, insights and thoughts JC
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I don't out them...rather I block them. If they are no shows and no call, then they have no respect for me, thus I will block them. “Life is available only in the present moment.” Thich Nhat Hanh Come and read my blog! Become a watcher! veryfunnycple64 
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One more thought, after the verbal\email thrashing and no response, I suppose there maybe\should be some type of Couples Dating option as they run the system. Complaints about certain users should allow then to reach out with the threat of suspending the account or other action. I imagine you can always create a new account for going to the principles office and in trouble from the system providers may help curve such a thing
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I am like you. My word is my bond, and I ALWAYS show up. However, something I learned long ago from another member was, always, always ALWAYS, confirm more than once and MAKE SURE you have a cel number for them, or else it's a 'no-go'. Sorry to hear in this day and age that 'no-show' still happen.
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That's bad, but what's even worse is when you do meet for the first time and the person in their profile pic is not them!!!!...kick the rocks!!!....I love your saying!!! BTW: I wouldn't stand you up....you are too sexy!!!
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What a dipshit!!! IDIOT!!!! I would never even offer unless I knew for sure I could make it and stay!!! Lol!!! Now, I would never out any Woman doing the same to me UNTIL I knew for sure there was NO good reason for not showing up and for not responding to my messages. But, I have not had as many no shows as I think and most Women here have either!!! LMFAO!!! Once you know for sure, then screw the dumbs! He deserves all he gets and what he missed out on!!! hugs
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sounds like a PSA is in order.
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