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Casual Definitions Of Casual Sex
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Casual Definitions Of Casual Sex Sex With No Strings. Pretty simple, and to the point - humping. Lots of it. Usually in one session - thus, no strings. In other words, no expectations of future humping, unless a new relationship is negotiated. SWS means I will not a call you later, I will not meet your parents, and no, you can't sleep over (in my t-shirt no less). This is the traditional One Night Stand, folks, it just doesn't have to start in a bar, nor do you need to be drunk. Guys, there are manners. You do not ejaculate, and instantly ask when the next bus runs outside, a smatter of small talk costs you nothing and might reward you with an upgrade to fuck buddy status. Also, this is one you DO NOT call later, drunk, horny, and confused. This is one that is "use once, throw away". Unless it's so good, you have to go back...usually you can decide this 30 seconds after you cum...then it's upgrade time. Gals. This is NOT A RELATIONSHIP. STOP telling your girlfriends about the awesome guy you met last night, he's not calling you again. Yes, he used you. You used him right back. Enjoy the power. These are hook ups you don't talk about, nor do you take them around to meet your pals for drinks the next day. You hump, they leave. Simple. Booty Call: This is someone you've SWNS'ed, or dated. Maybe you were married. Or she is, and you work together. Or you both are. This is someone you can call anytime, day or night, and chances are, you will get laid. You have one or two of these, right? Everyone does. Anyone who's dating someone else, and it's the first year, dreads these. We all know who are they. We have ours. Guys and Gals - these happen FROM previous relationships. Stop asking for them, you're putting the before the cart. One of the important things here is, A., you know calling them is okay, and vice versa, and B., you know what they're like in bed, they're acceptable to you, and there will be no uncomfortable "surprises" at the door if they com over. Slow it down, Speed Racer, and try SWNS first. And finally, these are the super, super secret ones. Nobody ever knows. Ever. If you tell your current girlfriend/boyfriend, you destroy the relationship AND the bootycall. Fuck Buddy. These are the fun ones, and the most dangerous. It's about sex - lots of it, and all the time. After work, before work, all weekend, in Tahoe on a ski weekend (fireplace sex is the BEST), and they're allowed to stay over. Can be ongoing, like a booty call, and will be dusted off between relationships. "Funny, I never met HIM the 3 years we dated? Oh, he's one of THOSE." You might even date, go out, show each other off, but once things get personal, you both know it's time to split up, for now. They're the one person who won't get upset if you say "I met someone..." because they did, too. Guys and gals, warning. These relationships are treacherous. They CAN and do sometimes get real, and the other person rarely agrees it's time to start sharing the bureau and bathroom. Be open, honest, and make sure you're BOTH on the same page, and the kingdom is yours. However, for the meek at heart, beware. These are the realtionships where fetishes, fanatsies, and pure unadulterated hedonsim occurs, and it's expected. This is the time for her to try drinking the blood from a wound on your lower belly while she jerks you off, because those bloody vampire movies tunr her on in a way she's not ready to deal with. This is the time he'll be into trying threesomes, or more. Do not be offended if he wants to share you, you are his favorite toy, and it's a mark of honor that he's comfy with it. Indulge. But if they rock your polite, vanilla ideas of what sex is a little too hard, be aware you are in far, far over your head, and you need to back off and either date (foolish exercise that it is) or dabble with SWNS, so you can at least escape his/her chamber of horrors. Yes folks, this is the one where you get your stories. Love them, live them, respect them. You'd both worked hard. Friends With Benefits. Yes, that one. Okay, some blunt truth. Women tend to abuse this one to try and trap a guy into a relationship, and guys generally confuse this with Fuck Buddy, Booty Call, and Sex With No Strings - and generally all in one night. Guys, these are going to be tough for you, for one reason: the word "freinds". These relationships have a very good shot of turning into a real relationship. See "When Harry Met Sally". This is someone you'd probably be dating, anyway, and the only difference is no sex. Adding sex can be tricky, as it moves the relationship into a grey area, of where you're not sure how you feel. OR It's someone you trust utterly, who can share this intimacy with you without freaking out on you, and it'll be your shared secret, one that means something. Yes, guys, sex can be meaningful. This is one where friendship needs to be present first - a strong friendship that can survive the rocky shore of sexual relations. If your friendship is rocky, chaotic, inconstant, and does not have solid communication skills on both sides, mutual trust and respect, it's just a bad idea to begin with, and it will kill your friendship - one that you generally want to cling to, as they count for far more than fleeting sex. Of all the women I've had offer this to me, very few of them could handle it, and were confusing the intimacy of freindship with something else. Two i accepted, one worked, one did'nt, and horribly. The three I offered it to, I knew could, and it was a warm, enjoyable experience we still smile about and hint at when our SO's aren't around. These are good for times of stress or tradgedy, for the lean times between relationships, and while they tend to be more about married sex than the wild, unbridled fuck buddies, it's very, very good - you know each other, it's that much deeper. Gals: this is a bad way to find a boyfriend. If he's already a friend, that means you don't want to date him, or you're not sure. Make up your mind before plunging in. If you have any feelings for him, and don't admit it up front, it won't go well. Don't dupe a guy - we hate that. Don't lie. You cannot ASK for this - they are bred during real freindships that happen outside of your nasty little weekend adventures. (You nasty little girl. Bless you.) Asking for a Freinds With Benefits screams one thing to guys; someone who cannot be honest about what they're looking for, and is using his/her sexuality, or the lure of it, to bypass the hard work of actually meeting someone, getting to know them, and actually relating to them on various levels. You belong in Casual Encounters, but you need to get real - what you need and all you can handle is a SWNS or a fuck buddy, stop trying to trick people with the lure of sex. Guys: This is trouble for you, for that "friend" word. Yes, it means you have to be a friend, and all that implies. That means she CAN in fact call you when she's weepy, and you have to listen. That means you're NICE to her, and do nice things for her. It may have even occured to her that you really like her, which is why you're friends with her. This is one you introduce to your family, if they don't know her and adore her already, but as just friends - they'll understand later if that changes. It also means that you won't be having sex all the time - you're friends, remember? That means doing things with her, like going to the store with her, getting her medicine and soup when she's sick, driving her when her car is in the shop...you know the drill. if any of this irks you, you're not being honest about her, and you need to figure out what you're doing, or negotiate for a different status. So, that's all for now. Please post with care, about what you want and are looking for, chances are there's plenty of someones to fill your every - and I mean every - need here. But be honest, and get your terms rights. If you want a boyfriend, post in WSM, not casual encounters talking about friends with benefits. Don't agree to a night of SWNS sex and old black and white films, and then start acting like a girlfriend later, and demanding attention. It's a waste of time, and that's time you could be humping. Hope this helps! Feel free to rebutt, reject, or rejoinder!      ~Juicy~ |
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6/20/2007 8:07 am |
Ab-so-lutely LOVED it Juicy  how have u been BTW...am having fun readin your blogs... Hap
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Ab-so-lutely LOVED it Juicy how have u been BTW...am having fun readin your blogs...Hap  ... you commenting a second time gives me another chance to give you more great big hugs, and wet JUICY kisses...lol *grins* ... glad to see you here.I get so caught up in reading the blogs sometimes, I'm late getting my day started... If I were able to take the time to comment on all of them there'd go my whole day ... lol ... *ponders* hey ya think there's a way we could turn this into a career and get paid for it? ... lol ... Anyway..... I've been really busy, things are still bad with my mom (the reason I'm still in TN) I'm just ready to GOOOO...lol. Staying positive, hopefully things will start to look up soon and I'll be on my merry way...lol. How about you...besides pervin' in A FF ... lol ... how are you doing?. ~Juicy~
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Thank you BigDaddy ... although this doesn't apply to me anymore, it 's still pretty interesting to see how some people (I did say SOME) ... lol ... define casual sex to their convenience. ~Juicy~
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Hi celeborn128 and ty for posting a comment. I didn't get a chance to get as far as yours yesterday before I had to leave unexpectedly. But anyway...I know everyone has their own ideas on what is what concerning the definitions of Casual sex, Friends w/ benefits, Fuck buddies. I've never really considered fuck buddies & Friends w/ benefits as the same. But I do pretty much consider them a type of casual sex. But it's different for everyone. and I guess it's up to the parties involved to make sure it's understood what they want from one another. For instance... (A Fuckbuddy) I once met a guy who hung out with our group of friends, I was comfortable with him, and I suppose I liked him well enough, I was definitely physically attracted to him. But to be honest about it, it was purely a physical attraction (lust) we had nothing in common with each other, we weren't friends really, I mean not in the true sense of the word, we'd started out as aquaintances and never strived to become more, he had a g/f, and I was enjoying playing the field, not looking for anything steady, neither of us wanted more. We'd party with our group, or I'd be at his house with my g/f visting her b/f who happened to be his brother. Actually I was more into their other (single) brother. But anyway we'd had a sort of unspoken agreement, at the end of the night, if we were both alone, then we'd spend it together, I considered us no more than fuck buddies and thats really all we were. Had we been friends w/ benefits there would have been more to it, we'd have actually been 'friends'. We only met and started talking (never about anything of importance) because someone in our group was a mutual friend. There was nothing more to it than partying and and ending up together for a few hrs of sex, which wasn't that great btw... lol... had he been the only guy I had ever been with, I'd have been left wondering each time "Is that it?". The fuck buddy thing didn't last to long, I thought maybe he just drank to much the other times, and kept hoping it might get better the next time (he didn't). Looking back on it, we never really spent a whole night together, we'd have mediocre sex, he'd pass out, I'd slip outta bed get dressed and head home, never even looking back at him. So I'd consider that fuck buddies but also casual sex. (Friends w/ benefits) Now my ex-fiance and I split on really bad terms, but we'd run into each other often, and somehow, began being civil to each other and over time, we eventually (slowly) became friends. We started hanging out a lil, and worked our way up to the friend thing, did the friend things,had the friend talks, he'd visit me, I'd visit him, we'd go out together as friends, even spent nights together just talking with no sex at all. We were comfortable with each other. We agreed we'd rushed our initial first relationship the first time around. He'd said... "Maybe eventually we might get together in the future (like he's the one who gets to decide pffftttt) but this time we take our time, I'm not ready to settle down again, I enjoy dating others and being single" and I was relieved, I also had no intentions on going back either, I'd wanted more while we were together the first time, and I wasn't happy in our relationship. I was missing something. I'd meet guys I was attracted to, and could get interested in, if I were single, but it was always hands off. I constantly wanted to kick myself for having went into a relationship, let alone an engagement. So I had no intentions of settling with him again either. But eventually we did we fall into the friends w/ benefits relationship, we began having sex, and I was careful not to let it become habit, I'd spend a cpl nites a week with him, and a cpl with the other guy I was seeing and the other nights with my friends. But somehow he mistook the friends w/ benefits thing as "Getting back together", or at least the start of an "Us". He couldn't handle it when I wouldn't give up the part of my life that didn't include him or the other guy I was seeing, he knew there was sex involved with the other guy too. As I said, we'd discussed what we wanted before we even added sex to the mix. I let him know, I wasn't ready to stop dating others and meeting new people, I was only 20 then. We'd first gotten together when I was only 18, and gotten engaged just after I turned 19, and broke up a month before my 20th b-day. I wasn't ready to go back to that, I had alot of discovering left to do. there was no miscommunication, or me leading him on, he knew what I wanted and agreed. And again he'd even agreed, saying he wanted to date others as well, but he never did, he wanted all my time, it was stifling, and not what I wanted and it became a stalkerish situation. Needless to say that relationship didn't last last to awful long. You have to be constant & firm in letting your partner know what it is you want from the relationship, if all your in it for is casual sex, you can never over do letting them know that, and you have to remind them frequently what it is that you have together, that just because you've been at it awhile nothings changed. It is what it is. I don't know maybe theres a fine line between the definitions of casual sex. What is and isn't. Just like the difference between loving someone and being IN love. Some people get it, and some don't. I know I tend to ramble to much...lol..didn't mean to write such a long reply. ~Juicy~
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*smiles* Your welcome Risas ... lol ... I agree on the orientation. Thank you for posting. ~Juicy~
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Thank you for posting tsigili ...hmmm I wouldn't know anymore ... lol ... now that I've become an honest woman I haven't been looking. I guess I could have been, while waiting the last 20 months. But I just didn't have the desire for anyone else. But if I had, I think I'd have preffered the friends w/ benefits at least I'd have had a standing date every now and then ... lol ... it's great hanging with the girls, but it's nice to have a warm pair of arms to slip into (among other things) at the end of the day. ~Juicy~
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Hiya, thank you & welcome runz ...ty for stopping by and posting too. lol it's all good. All great thoughts end up on t-shirts ...lol...sometimes even not so great ones too IE: I'm with stupid *laffs* it's become a classic though I guess. It never seems to fade out....lol ~Juicy~
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Love this post!!
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