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Vanilla friends......
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Vanilla friends...... Hi everyone, At times,when we go out,some of our friends will ask,"so where did you go last night"? or,"do you guys want to go to.."?,and sometimes,we pass,because we would rather go to our place of interest. So we were wondering how people seperate their "vanilla" friends from "lifestyle" friends. Do you tell them of your other interest? and If so,whats been their reaction?...If any? Are you open about it or do you prefer not to metion it at all? Sometime we just want to tell them the truth and be able to say,oh,we went here or there and we had a great time,,..because,we did have a great time, but yet we don't talk to anyone about it since they may not understand,,, Would you care to share your thoughts with us on this? |
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1/28/2007 2:11 pm |
We were just talking about this last night. We agree that we would like to tell but its too risky. We also look at alot of our friends and wonder if they have tried the lifestyle or considered it. We know one couple that we are friends with and we are very interested but for fear of ruining a friendship we are very carefull, but we hope (FANTASIZE) that they will someday want to join us. A&D
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We don't tell our vanilla friends what we do in private. None of their business and no sense ruining a perfectly good friendship. On the other hand, we have had functions, including our wedding, where there was a mix of swingers and vanilla friends. We don't think anyone caught on except maybe when Tracy was kissing a female friend of ours at the reception, long story but basically it involved a dare. R & T
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1/29/2007 7:03 am |
We have those select few friends that are true enough friends that we can trust to tell. We know that no matter what we do in our personal lives, these friends accept us for who we are. And guess what, a couple of them also expressed interest and have a bunch of questions for us. You never know if you don't put it out there. My opinion is that the ones you can't tell are the ones that aren't going to make a rockin time when you go....
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1/29/2007 7:00 pm |
Seems to me that you may be able to tell some friends based on how well you know them, and "their" lifestyle. Who knows, they may also be on this very same site. I have a few friends who are couples, and have expressed interest, and I actually told them about this site. I find personally, that I can tell who I can trust, and whom I cannot as far as that goes. Trust your instincts. Some may feel intimidated, others will most likely respect you for being upfront. Either way, you should feel confident you will not lose that friendship, because that is more important than anything.
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I will say I for now, but "We" previously have kept our Vanilla friends "out of the loop" so to speak. My wife has told a few of her vanilla friends but only those she had confidences with. That has been a small amount of discomfort to her due to a "falling out" with one of them but nothing has "popped up" yet. Personally if you don't want everyone to know, better to keep it away from the Vanilla couples unless it is brought up in general conversation Like "Hey did you catch the Oprah Show with the "swingers"? type of thing.. I can appreciate the anxiety and excitement of possibly bringing in Vanilla Friends into the scope of things. Good Luck  Billtotally worn out and screaming "WOO HOO what a ride!" Have a wonderful day!
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I am waiting for the day (and I just know that it will happen sometime) that we run into some of our vanilla friends while at a swinging event. I suspect that at least a few of our vanilla friends have dabbled in the lifestyle at least a little. I guess a bigger fear that we have is running into work colleagues while at an event. That is why we have greatly scaled back our public party appearances and now generally try to meet people in much more intimate settings, like dinner or drinks. Although... I have often fantasized about bringing a few of our vanilla friends over to the dark side! Sha-la-la-la-la-la-la-la-la-la-la-ti-da!!!
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we havnt been to anything in way to long and are wondering about Halloween parties. we have always had a great time at Halloween, its just a get wild time of year. I thing discretion is key,I'll take quality over quantity every timeI dont know if you'll be able to get back to us, but hope to get some info as to a great party.ive always been a standard member but have met afew very cool people first on the site and then met way back at friends landing.
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10/4/2019 4:23 pm |
I love reading these
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For the most part, non of our "vanilla" friends have any idea of what we do with our "special" friends....it's non of their business what we do sexually with others. However, on two occasions over the past 30 years, we've had one couple, and one single woman discover our secrets, erotic lifestyle. The couple stopped by one day while we were enjoying another couple on our deck. The music was rather loud, so we didn't hear them when they drove up out long driveway. They came around the corner of our house, and saw the 4 of us fucking. It was a bit awkward for about 30 seconds, but when the wife said, "That looks like fun!" We invited them to join in the fun. It was their first time, but they'd been talking about exploring for a couple years. With the female friend, it was at a lifestyle party 300 miles from our hometown. She was their with a girlfriend from college. We'd met the host couple several years before on a cruise. This time, it really seemed so natural, no awkwardness at all. I'd know her since we first met in 1st grade. We dated a few times in high school, but never did anything sexual. We'd been friends for many years, and Sue got to know her because they worked in the same "field"
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Love the story Trapper69 and yes,Sword5283,we enjoyvreading them too!
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there are probably 4 things that could happen. 1. they freak. they think you're evil and never have anything to do with you again. they tell the other neighbors and possibly your family if they know them. 2. they're ok with you doing it, but they could never do it themselves and they keep your 'secret' 3. they say they'd like to start swinging but you don't want to have sex with them. 4. they say they want to start swinging and you DO want to have sex with them and you invite others for mini orgies. if you see friends or co-workers at parties, you already know where they stand and it's just a matter of maybe wanting to play with them
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