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"I have a very high sex drive": discuss.
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"I have a very high sex drive": discuss. For those here who are genuinely looking for meets (which may, in fact, represent a minority), I suppose it goes without saying that one would wish to portray oneself as being sexually desirable. Obviously, one way of doing so would be to post photos (perhaps with "mixed results"  The other would be to paint an alluring verbal self-portrait. Clearly, in order to get prospective flies buzzing around one's dustbin, an image of barely controllable, practically insatiable libido never does any harm. Any self-respecting swinger is unlikely to be drawn to the prospect of racy innuendo over a pint of mild in the local, followed by a bit of slap and tickle on the sofa. Ostensibly, one has to be reeking of hot pheromones, bristling with rampant desire, and offering an inexhaustible supply of endless orgasms until dawn's early light and well beyond. Perhaps to cover themselves for this eventuality, a large number of people feel compelled to include the phrase "I have a very high sex drive" in their profile descriptions. But what does this actually mean in real terms? Have the people in question submitted their average sexual performance to peer review by a scientific panel of professional sexologists? I don't think anyone would argue that human libido covers a vast range. Some have the sexual energy of a snail, whereas others will appear to shag anyone and anything (even bicycles) at any time. Also, I don't think anyone would dispute that evaluation of one's own individual libido is extremely subjective. I'm willing to bet that if it were possible to interview a snail, he/she (being<b> hermaphrodite </font></b  would also claim to be "hot stuff". Which leads me to my point: Is it, in fact, of any value at all to claim one has a "high libido"? Aside from the fact it's impossible to measure quantitatively, there is a natural tendency for humans to view their own sexual attributes through rose-tinted specs: to place themselves at a point on the libido ladder that gives them sufficient self-esteem. In addition, there is the old conundrum of quantity versus quality. It may indeed be true that someone is driven to have sex 15 times a day, but is that because his/her "per orgasm" level of perceived satisfaction is a lot shallower than that of someone who, say, needs only about one good shag a week, from which he/she emerges fully drained and contented? Libido is likely correlated with many factors: age, genetics, mood, time of day/year, or the perceived attractiveness/chemistry of a prospective sexual partner. However, I would say that the most fundamental is the degree of individual reward and contentment derived from sex. If sex elicits barely a flutter of gratification, one is not going to seek it as actively as someone whose limbic system lights up like a Christmas tree, shudders to utter contentment and fulfillment, and ends up being squirted through a worm-hole in the space-time continuum Personally, I take all subjective claims of libido levels with a pinch of salt. Everything is relative. It's always impossible to tell how anyone will perform, or how two people will interact, before it actually happens. Which is why I think "what I'm going to do to you" e-mails are hilarious © Crusoe 2013 |
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Very well put. I have found as time goes by my sexual "proclivities",if you will, have grown more uncontrollable and nuanced. Although I have heard that men's sexual peak is supposedly somewhere around 18, I feel as if I'm just hitting my stride now (not without the occasional stumble). To be frank, I may even have a mild case of sexual addiction; up until very recently, I was engaging in sexual activities to the point that sex and masturbation were no longer pleasurable but I couldn't sleep without doing something (usually multiple times). Although I've always understood quality is better than quantity, I've come to understand that in a much more intimate and sensual sense. I'm currently "saving myself," or to put it more bluntly, forcing myself to learn how to regain control of my sexual passions in order to achieve a much more pleasurable, healthier, and more fulfilling sexual experience. For awhile I really felt more like a machine than a human being. I suppose my sexuality will be something I will continue to struggle with for the rest of my lifetime; trying to work out a proper balance and not cause others undue damage in the process. In a sense, my sexuality is a mystery and at least that keeps things interesting. "I am certain of nothing but the holiness of the Heart's affections and truth of Imagination What the imagination seizes as Beauty must be truth"♥
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Yes, the "What I'm going to do to you" emails are hilarious, not to mention misleading as hell. I've found that the more they talk about what they're going to do, the less impressive the actual performance.
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Yes, the "What I'm going to do to you" emails are hilarious, not to mention misleading as hell. I've found that the more they talk about what they're going to do, the less impressive the actual performance. When I get such "fantasy" messages, I generally delete them. Unless they are in the vicinity and have a more meaningful profile. Ms Voodoo Cunnilingus Addict Squirter Extraordinaire For more blogs & polls, please follow me on : voodoo660
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